Fear of Success

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When it comes to success, failure is the most important obstacle that we associate it. Surprisingly, fear of success can prevent us from attaining success, even more. But, why is that? And, how can we know does fear of success prevent us from our goals? According to psychologists, the both sexes are prone to develop a fear of success. They claim that a huge number of people are victims of the fear, but they do not know it. The reason for this is because the fear is unconscious. It usually expresses itself through self-sabotage. Therefore, many people can make some stupid mistake or overlook something obvious and essential just one step before their goal. The similar situations usually happen because we suppressed our fears, hide them, and stop thinking about them. In this way, they flourish in our unconscious mind. If we want to move on from the point of self-sabotage, it is necessary to admit and recognize the fear. Some people are afraid of change. Even though they do everything consciously to succeed, they resist change and reject success unconsciously. Others find standing out too difficult and exhausting that they ignore their chances for success. To find out more about fear of success, the article “Are You More Afraid of Success Than Failure?” gives us an interesting insight.

If you don’t particularly like your job or some other aspect of your life, you may also find that you have become comfortable with it if for no reason other than the fact that it is familiar. If this is you, if you grouse about your daily circumstances yet keep returning to them, then you may be a member of what I call the “ain’t-it-awful club.” Members of this club love to engage in “one-downsmanship”: “You think that’s bad, wait until you hear this one.” You may also know this one as “misery loves company.”

Perhaps you have also settled for the “weevily peanuts” of life rather than going for life’s banquet table. Settling for less is a very individual set of choices and definitions, and it is not my intent to define either the peanuts or the banquet table for you. However, if you have the sense that you have settled more than strived for what you want, then it might be worth your while to explore how your fear of success is in the way.

Too often, self-doubts and harsh inner critic can prevent us from achieving success. No matter what are the reasons that we fear success, affirmations and visualization can help. But, we should use them wisely. Namely, affirmations will not be thus effective if we use them to mask our fear. They can help our progress only if we use them to ask ourselves what stands in the way that we cannot fully feel affirmation as it has already happened. If we use affirmations to face our fears, release them, and adopt a new perspective, we will be on our way to success, no matter how we have defined it.